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No F boys Allowed...

My Experience with Covid 19

4/24/2020

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So this is DAY 31 since my first symptoms of Covid19. I was feeling sooo much better but I'm having these weird heart palpitations now. Even still I'm able to breathe without meds so I'm still praising God for being better than I was!🙏
I don't go on Facebook often, but I did go online and see there's still REALLY an argument about whether this thing is real or not, AND Ive seen others who aren't questioning the validity, but are questioning the numbers. I'll speak on my experience with this virus: 

Before I got sick with covid I thought there was a possibility I already had this in the winter and that everyone may be overreacting just a little bit; THEN, one night I woke up to chills, night sweats, a headache, a scratchy throat and a dry cough and realized, I had never had this! This was new. There was a shock like pain in my chest in-between shivers (kinda like static electricity) and I realized this was definitely not the flu.

The first three days were mild symptoms -nothing too crazy actually. I figured I'd be one of the few who would beat this rather quickly. I was up and about patting my body on the back like I was Rocky or something. Day 4, I thought I was back to normal. 

THEN DAY 5 hit - heavy pressure came on my chest - and it felt like a 500 lb elephant had decided to collapse ontop of me. I have asthma so I called my doctor immediately. She advised me to stay at home, prescribing me some meds to help me through my symptoms.

Sleeping at night and trying to breathe became a chore. My chest was heavily inflammed and my cough hurt at night. A week out I thought I was getting better, only to be hit with chills, nausea, and a shocking feeling in my chest again ( it felt like I was going to war with Daenerys and her dragons from a GAME of Thrones episode, I kid you not!). It just wouldn't let up! Besides hearing about all the unexpected deaths, and worrying you too may not make it, my biggest concern was passing this virus on to someone else. My family. My kids. My older parents. That's what really kept me up at night. Yet, a couple days ago, I finally turned a corner. *hallelujah* I wish I could say the worst is behind me, but who knows?!

This past month has held some of the longest, scariest moments of my life. I havent been able to work. I haven't been able to breathe well most nights, and honestly, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy! 

Every one wants things to go back to normal already, but what is "normal" now? Do we even know what that looks like? Id rather you or your loved one not have to struggle through this like I did. I stayed home and quarantined while I was sick. There will be many who won't and will continue to spread this. 

Aside from our day to day life issues, the problem with this virus for everyone at this point is in the not knowing. You don't know how your body is going to react to this. ALOT of you have already been exposed and have no idea! Some people have yet to be exposed due in large part because of the quarantine! Count your blessings, but also realize that the answer to a "new normal" lies in more testing (which we still don't have yet). 

So yea, I know you're probably tired of hearing #stayhome #stayathome#staysafe but until you, or your loved one knows exactly where you stand with this, that's what we're all going to have to do! I hope there's more testing soon because it's exactly what we need right now. 

​#covid19symptoms


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How'd You Become A Writer?

9/23/2019

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"Yes I act - but I was a writer first & foremost..." Nikki D Lovely

I've been writing since I was old enough to put sentences together.  When I was in grade school, I won a speech and story writing competitions my school would have throughout the year. My first being a 'Black History' event. I remember winning a small stipend and certificate - and from that day forward I knew there was something to this writing 'thang.'  Until 4th grade that is.  4th grade I was accused of plagiarism by a visiting author my teacher had invited to the class. 

She'd made us all write a poem and share it.  I was so proud of my little poem about spring, and all the animals emerging from their slumber because Spring had come, that I remember reading it and smiling.  The kids loved it, and by the looks of it - so did she. Until she said, "That was amazing. You didn't write that."   That's when my little heart sank!  I most certainly had!  She saw me sit there and write it! I'd thought.  Other kids took up for me with the same sentiment.

"That's not what I mean.  You probably heard that somewhere else, and your mind just stored it not knowing you'd heard it somewhere else." No lady.  I wrote that shit!

 
I battled this argument in my head,  then took to crying.   The author was calling me a liar - and that hurt.  I realized later that day that I should have taken it for the compliment it was - despite her intent.  

In high school, I wrote a set of poetry and soft-core short stories that the girls would always pass around the school.  I never knew who I would get my stories from next as those journals stayed going from hand to hand - until - one day, I was in class, and one of the football players started passing around a 'different journal' everyone seemed very interested in.  

"Look at what my girlfriend wrote." He said with pride as he passed around her journal.  The entire class gushed at the wordings, and gave each other high fives.  I was now very intrigued.
"Can I see it?"  I asked.  I wanted to read this new author - maybe exchange notes and be friends!  He passed me her notebook.

As my eyes combed over the words in her handwriting, I felt my heart drop.  They weren't just some foreign random words on a paper I'd never seen before - nope. They were all my words - now written in her journal - and now in her handwriting.  She had asked to see my journal last, and I was heartbroken.   

"This is my shit."  I said to the class.  They all looked at each other disparagingly.  I thought about tearing the entire notebook up, but I could tell she had put countless hours into copying my shit, and there was no way I could just do that to my work. Those were my babies.  So instead of hurting them - I allowed them to live in someone else's journal. 

"I would curse her out." One of the other girls advised. 
Nah.  I was too sweet for that; Instead, I took out a pen and I signed every single page of 'her' poetry journal in front of everyone.  I was not a liar.  I was not a plagerist- but she was. 


From there I started writing for the high school newspaper, and performing in pageants.  I didn't do pageants for the dress-up and make-up though.  I lived for the talent competitions.  All i wanted to do was write and perform my own poetry. 
In college, I started in journalism and TV production, and then specialized in screenwriting when I went back to get my Master's - and then afterwards I got side-tracked with life.  

I became a mommy again and then there was no more time for words.  All my words were being given to a little one, and a man who didn't ever hear me.  I got tired, and drew up into a cocoon.  I stopped talking, I stopped writing, and ultimately - I just stopped feeling altogether.

A funny thing happens to you when you suppress the very thing in you that typically makes you feel alive - a part of you dies.  For years, my writing flatlined.  My mind was so boggled down with distractions that I never could actually sit down and ... WRITE!  However, I'm very excited about what's to come. Those distractions are no longer here, and I plan on doing brain dumps back to the page, for as long as my mind will let me. 
This little writer is here to stay and I hope you enjoy the ride with me. 
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Official 'No F*** Boys Allowed' book launch & Signing - Nov. 17th in LA

11/9/2018

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'Well it's official!  My latest book, "No F*** Boys Allowed", will have it's official launch next Saturday, November 17th at Hey! Hey! Boba in Echo Park.  There will be some reading and discussion from the book, as well as a poetry reading from my upcoming sister book, "In My Feels." (to be released March 15, 2019). All the poems relate to N.F.B.A., and I will be sharing these pieces for the first time EVER at the launch.  Won't you come out and join me?

  As a newly, published author, it is nerve-wrecking sharing your baby with the world.  As Erykah Badu says, "I'm an artist, and I'm sensitive about my sh**.  Even still, I know it's imperative to get this subject matter out to so many women affected by F*** Boys each day - so I am excited about changing the way women view themselves and the men in their life!

I invite anyone who wants to open up the discussion on being single and dating to come through Nov. 17th.  Although it may clearly state that there are 'No fuckboys allowed,' the truth is - they are welcome to come too.  After all, I wrote a whole book in honor of them.  The least I can do is invite them to the conversation. 

Hope to see you soon!
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'No F*** Boys Allowed' Official Book Launch
Hey Hey Boba , 1555 W. Sunset Blvd, Los Angeles CA

*I will be covering first ten book purchases to a boba drink so get there early!!!
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No F*** Boys Allowed Gets A New cover!

9/30/2018

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There's a new cover design for "No F*** Boys Allowed." I wanted to create something a little fresher than the ebook copy and I really like the colors.  I am also thinking of adding a few products for the Christmas season with the same theme and I am really excited to shared that package with you guys.  Coming soon! In the meantime, let me know you think in the comments below.  Do you approve?

​More about this process coming soon. ;)

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F Boys Allowed Interview with the French Label

8/31/2018

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So I had an interview today with the great blogger Marie Marks, from www.Mariemarks.com.  We discussed fuckboys, why I wrote the book 'No F Boys Allowed" , and what I want women to walk away with from reading the book.

I honestly wrote this book for my friends and myself.  There were a lot of women around me going through heartache, and dating men who weren't good for them.  After countless hours on the phone complaining about men, and seeing other women crying on Instagram posts, I realized it was a widespread problem and I set out to fix it.  Why were so many women getting entangled with these men, and how could we change the landscape?  ... 

If you'd like to hear more, please check out the entire podcast here... https://anchor.fm/thefrenchlabel
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August 15th, 2018

8/15/2018

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    Nikki D Lovely covers the f*** boy space in her new book "No Fboys Allowed.' You'll laugh and learn a thing or two when it comes to your situationship with fboys. Go ahead and check out the new book on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Itunes.  You can also purchase from her website www.nikkidlovely.com.  Amazon link is below...

    https://amzn.to/2MgPFkg

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